1) If I have an itch, can I scratch it?
Yes—however, first try scratching it with your mind before using your fingers.
We’ve gone over the basic breath meditation so far, but there are other mindfulness techniques that use different focal points than the breath to anchor our attention—external objects like a sound in the room, or something broader, such as noticing spontaneous things that come into your awareness during an aimless wandering practice. But all of these practices have one thing in common: We notice that our minds ARE running the show a lot of the time. It’s true. We think thoughts, typically, and then we act. But here are some helpful strategies to change that up:
It’s estimated that 95% of our behavior runs on autopilot. That’s because neural networks underlie
all of
our habits, reducing our millions of sensory inputs per second into manageable shortcuts so we can
function in this crazy world. These default brain signals are so efficient that they often cause us
to
relapse into old behaviors before we remember what we meant to do instead.
Mindfulness is the exact opposite of these default processes. It’s executive control rather than
autopilot, and enables intentional actions, willpower, and decisions. But that takes practice. The
more
we activate the intentional brain, the stronger it gets. Every time we do something deliberate and
new,
we stimulate neuroplasticity, activating our grey matter, which is full of newly sprouted neurons
that
have not yet been groomed for “autopilot” brain.
But here’s the problem. While our intentional brain knows what is best for us, our autopilot brain
causes us to shortcut our way through life. So how can we trigger ourselves to be mindful when we
need
it most? This is where the notion of “behavior design” comes in. It’s a way to put your intentional
brain in the driver’s seat. There are two ways to do that—first, slowing down the autopilot brain by
putting obstacles in its way, and second, removing obstacles in the path of the intentional brain,
so it
can gain control.
Shifting the balance to give your intentional brain more power takes some work, though. Here are
some
ways to get started.
Meditation is no more complicated than what we’ve described above. It is that simple … and that
challenging. It’s also powerful and worth it. The key is to commit to sit every day, even if it’s
for
five minutes. Meditation teacher Sharon Salzberg says: “One of my meditation teachers said that the
most
important moment in your meditation practice is the moment you sit down to do it. Because right then
you’re saying to yourself that you believe in change, you believe in caring for yourself, and you’re
making it real. You’re not just holding some value like mindfulness or compassion in the abstract,
but
really making it real.”
Recent research from neuroscientist Amishi Jha discovered that 12 minutes of meditation, 5 days a
week
can protect and strengthen your ability to pay attention.
When you’re new to meditation, it’s natural for questions to pop up often. These answers may ease your mind.
Yes—however, first try scratching it with your mind before using your fingers.
Only worry if you’ve stopped breathing. Otherwise, you’re doing fine. Breath in whatever way feels comfortable to you.
No hard-and-fast rules. Try both. If open, not too wide, and with a soft, slightly downward gaze, not focusing on anything in particular. If closed, not too hard, and not imagining anything in particular in your mind’s eye.
When you find yourself asking that question, your meditation has officially begun. Everyone wonders that. Notice it. Escort your attention back to your object of focus (the breath). When you’re lost and questioning again, come back to the breathe again. That’s the practice. There’s no limit to the number of times you can be distracted and come back to the breath. Meditating is not a race to perfection—It’s returning again and again to the breath.
Both are great! It’s enormously supportive to meditate with others. And, practicing on your own builds discipline.
Whatever works. Consider your circumstances: children, pets, work. Experiment. But watch out. If you always choose the most convenient time, it will usually be tomorrow.
No big deal. Meditation stokes the imagination. In time, every thought and sensation will pop up (so to speak). And come back. Same old story. Release the thought, bring awareness and receptivity to body sensations, bring attention back to your chosen object (the breath, in this case). Repeat.
While meditating, we don’t have to fight off distractions like a knight slaying dragons. If your dog or cat comes into the room and barks and meows and brushes up against you or settles down on a part of your cushion, no big deal. Let it be. What works less well is to interrupt your session to relate to them. If that’s what’s going to happen, try to find a way to avoid their interrupting your practice.